A year ago, 40-year-old Russian TV host Anfisa Chekhova divorced from actor Guram Bablishvili after seven years of marriage. As it became known, her ex-husband repeatedly changed his wife. The couple have parted peaceably and are raising a six-year-old son of Solomon.
Recently, in one of her posts in Instagram Chekhov talked about the topic of adultery. Anfisa answered the question of how to survive the infidelity of a loved one.
“Surely, avoiding pain is the first thing that comes to a person’s mind, but it’s impossible to swim across a river if you desperately rush in the opposite direction, without analyzing the path, and you can end up in a completely different place from the current of your river of life. and desperation and to be on the other shore, where all the tears will dry out, where all suffering will cease, where new people and other opportunities await us: we need to get in, plunge, feel cold water with every centimeter of our skin, realize our loneliness, emptiness, pain … realize, that life is up It changes and the comfort zone is already behind, and you will not remain the same … and swim! Just swim, concentrating on yourself, on your sensations, trying your pain on the taste, plunging into its depth, and again emerging to the surface, “wrote the TV presenter .
She added that pain and stress should be allowed to survive, “to sob”, to discuss with millions of girlfriends, a psychologist or with herself in front of a mirror. At the same time you need to enjoy your anger, say all the accumulated anger, without blaming yourself for the feelings that you are experiencing.
According to Chekhova, if you allow yourself to plunge into the experience, then the pain will begin to dissipate. “And from this trash you will leave another: with new hopes, faith in the best and, most importantly, in yourself and your strength! You will become closer to yourself, and you will understand that Suffering is a ladder to new Opportunities! Do not run from pain, live it as sincere as Victory and Joy! ” – the TV presenter has summed up.